Sometimes you might feel like you’re desperate to be in a relationship…until the possibility is right in front of you.When trying to find love, often fear is the one, huge thing standing in the way. But you learned when you were three — with the whole “monsters under the bed” thing — that some fears are imaginary. Here are some reasons why we are actually afraid of getting into relationships.
- You are afraid of heartbreak
Let’s get this one out of the way right off the bat. Everyone is afraid of getting hurt. We never want to get hurt. Right? But everything comes with pros and cons, so does love . You Don’t need to control yourself on this. Some or the other person is going to hurt you anyway we just have to find who’s worth suffering for…
2.YOU’RE AFRAID TO NOT BE SINGLE ANYMORE.
Being single is awesome. But unless you have very, very strong convictions to be single for the rest of your life, you are going to have to change sometime. You might like being single now. But ask yourself: do you want to be alone for the rest of your life? Picture yourself living alone in 40 years. Are you okay with that? The answer to that question can be yes. But if you are unsure, and there is someone in your life who you are interested in exploring a relationship with, and they are standing there with their arms open to you, and they are willing to help you out of your comfort zone into a new zone of possible relationship awesomeness, then for God’s sake, let them.
3.YOU’RE AFRAID TO LET SOMEONE GET TO KNOW YOU.
If you haven’t been in a lot of relationships, it might seem strange to let someone get to know you — to see you disheveled in the morning, to see you at your best and worst, to truly let someone into your life. You might think the only reason you seem desirable to anyone is because they don’t know you that well — because you have managed to put the best version of yourself on display — something you can’t necessarily do when you throw yourself into a honest relationship. But remember that you can’t hide forever and nobody is perfect. Your new boyfriend/girlfriend is not perfect, either. We’ve all received the memo, and we are all okay with it.
4.YOU’RE AFRAID THAT LOVE DOESN’T WORK.
Maybe you never saw successful couples when you were young, or maybe your parents got along so well you thought, “No way will I get that lucky!” Either way, you can’t give up. Love never works perfectly all the time, but that doesn’t mean it’s not the best thing you will ever experience — the bad and the good makes that so.
So guys, feel free to fall in love. It’s the best feeling ever.you’ll realize soon.❤❤